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Viewing the Inner Child
When we relive childhood
emotional memories, it is as though we slide back through time,
wholly participating in the event. The impact can vary from
traces of emotions to full-out re-enactment of the experience.
When it’s complete, we may be shaking from the adrenaline
sourcing through our veins, or be totally unaware that the shift
in time ever occurred. In either case, our consciousness moves
away from our adult surroundings and into a place that is alive,
only in our mind. It does not exist for anyone else — ownership
is solely our own.
Our focus can
be taken from the present to the past and back to the present in
an instant, triggered by some aspect in our surroundings. These
flash-backs are real, at the emotional level, and our brain is
not equipped to unravel such emotional mysteries. For those who
wish to end this cycle, there are helpful tips, which I refer to
as looking at the past through ‘Adult Eyes’.
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The first step comes in
with DESIRE. Each time I recognize that I am falling back in
time, I say to myself, in a ridiculing / humorous manor, ‘Play
it again Sam’. It’s my mantra to increase my discipline toward
changing these unwanted habits. If you create a mantra for
yourself and use it each time you recognize that you are falling
into the past or coming out of such an event, you are putting
yourself on notice, that you expect change. This affirmation is
important, because it strengthens your desire to be in control
and take back the power. So don’t ignore small accomplishments
for celebrating small victories is the key to all endeavours.
The next
process is introducing DUALITY while you are living the
emotional memory. This means, reaching a point where you become
the witness or the observer. When you begin catching yourself in
the emotional event or past event, then you are in that position
of being the observer. It is being aware that you are
experiencing a past event rather than reliving the event as
though it was happening in the present. You can achieve this in
all of your memories.
The goal is
to introduce yourself, the conscious Adult, into the experience
as it is happening. It is similar to lucid dreaming, but easier.
The observer, reaches the stage where you are watching over the
child as its’ memory plays out. During this duality, You, the
adult, brings into the experience your adult wisdom, making that
wisdom available to your inner child. It is the adult that will
help the child see the event through your Adult Eyes. And don’t
forget that the child, now has the advantage of understanding
from a mature and more realistic perspective. This process
starts in conjunction with your recognition that you are going
back into a memory, or that you are in a memory, or you have
just left one.
Emotional
events are never created 100% alone, there are always outside
factors interacting with us; like people, places, things, and
other sources. This 3rd step is logically looking at the event
as a theatrical production similar to a director analyzing the
characters, the props and the setting. It is here that we begin
observing the emotional state of the other people, or situation,
in our memory. This is a process of adding perspective and
EMPATHY to the setting and the characters.
Now chances
are, you have already done this and done it many times. The
difference here is, that you are strengthening the ‘Intent’ for
becoming the observer, the guardian to your inner child. It is
through strengthening the Intent that will draw closure to these
uncontrolled emotional memories and their repetitious cycle.
In step 4 you
get to draw on all the arsenal you have gathered throughout your
life and apply it to maintaining the Adult perspective with your
inner child and thereby complete the healing process. Numerous
people are using a technique called the ‘1, 2, 3 of Me’. It has
been used globally since the sixties. Many methods exist for
healing the inner child, but your own desire to achieve duality
and empathy are all that one requires.
In terms of
dealing with your inner child, some may resort to using logic,
some may chastise, some may comfort. Whatever method you use to
treat yourself in normal circumstances, is the right way for
you. But remember, you are no long that child. You have become
the observer of past emotional events, and each one can be put
into perspective and brought to closure.
All our
emotional events, impact our life by manifesting their mark in
some way. If we were to apply a microscope to our actions and
thoughts we could follow the trail leading back to the event. If
there are personality traits that are affecting your daily life
in a undesirable manner, it is possible to apply these 4 steps
to bring balance to their impact. Incorporating the duality, for
example, would place you as the observer having the big picture,
as opposed to personalizing events in such away that you are
reacting to your world instead of acting with the wisdom of the
adult. I mention this, because it relates to the manifestation
of an inner child discontent. It is an important topic that
deserves its’ own discussion at another time.
From a spiritual / scientific
perspective, you are changing the frequency of an event that has
been locked in your aura since the original occurrence. That
frequency has repeated itself and still is repeats itself, in
every energetic expression since the moment of its’ creation.
The process of viewing the experience with Adult Eyes, merges
your current frequency with that of the memory’s frequency. The
process brings the past events into harmony with the person you
are today. It accomplishes this through the merging of the two
frequencies - the past frequency and the present. This is the
meaning of harmony, a merging together, creating a new result.
At this point the memory loses all it power and it can never,
again, take control. Any recall will be done out of choice and
be viewed with objectivity.
Following these 4 steps is a
worthwhile adventure into your own becoming, and at no cost, but
a little time well spent.
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