Viewing the Inner Child


     When we relive childhood emotional memories, it is as though we slide back through time, wholly participating in the event. The impact can vary from traces of emotions to full-out re-enactment of the experience. When it’s complete, we may be shaking from the adrenaline sourcing through our veins, or be totally unaware that the shift in time ever occurred. In either case, our consciousness moves away from our adult surroundings and into a place that is alive, only in our mind. It does not exist for anyone else — ownership is solely our own.


     Our focus can be taken from the present to the past and back to the present in an instant, triggered by some aspect in our surroundings. These flash-backs are real, at the emotional level, and our brain is not equipped to unravel such emotional mysteries. For those who wish to end this cycle, there are helpful tips, which I refer to as looking at the past through ‘Adult Eyes’.


   The first step comes in with DESIRE. Each time I recognize that I am falling back in time, I say to myself, in a ridiculing / humorous manor, ‘Play it again Sam’. It’s my mantra to increase my discipline toward changing these unwanted habits. If you create a mantra for yourself and use it each time you recognize that you are falling into the past or coming out of such an event, you are putting yourself on notice, that you expect change. This affirmation is important, because it strengthens your desire to be in control and take back the power. So don’t ignore small accomplishments for celebrating small victories is the key to all endeavours.


     The next process is introducing DUALITY while you are living the emotional memory. This means, reaching a point where you become the witness or the observer. When you begin catching yourself in the emotional event or past event, then you are in that position of being the observer. It is being aware that you are experiencing a past event rather than reliving the event as though it was happening in the present. You can achieve this in all of your memories.


     The goal is to introduce yourself, the conscious Adult, into the experience as it is happening. It is similar to lucid dreaming, but easier. The observer, reaches the stage where you are watching over the child as its’ memory plays out. During this duality, You, the adult, brings into the experience your adult wisdom, making that wisdom available to your inner child. It is the adult that will help the child see the event through your Adult Eyes. And don’t forget that the child, now has the advantage of understanding from a mature and more realistic perspective. This process starts in conjunction with your recognition that you are going back into a memory, or that you are in a memory, or you have just left one.


     Emotional events are never created 100% alone, there are always outside factors interacting with us; like people, places, things, and other sources. This 3rd step is logically looking at the event as a theatrical production similar to a director analyzing the characters, the props and the setting. It is here that we begin observing the emotional state of the other people, or situation, in our memory. This is a process of adding perspective and EMPATHY to the setting and the characters.


     Now chances are, you have already done this and done it many times. The difference here is, that you are strengthening the ‘Intent’ for becoming the observer, the guardian to your inner child. It is through strengthening the Intent that will draw closure to these uncontrolled emotional memories and their repetitious cycle.


     In step 4 you get to draw on all the arsenal you have gathered throughout your life and apply it to maintaining the Adult perspective with your inner child and thereby complete the healing process. Numerous people are using a technique called the ‘1, 2, 3 of Me’. It has been used globally since the sixties. Many methods exist for healing the inner child, but your own desire to achieve duality and empathy are all that one requires.


     In terms of dealing with your inner child, some may resort to using logic, some may chastise, some may comfort. Whatever method you use to treat yourself in normal circumstances, is the right way for you. But remember, you are no long that child. You have become the observer of past emotional events, and each one can be put into perspective and brought to closure.


     All our emotional events, impact our life by manifesting their mark in some way. If we were to apply a microscope to our actions and thoughts we could follow the trail leading back to the event. If there are personality traits that are affecting your daily life in a undesirable manner, it is possible to apply these 4 steps to bring balance to their impact. Incorporating the duality, for example, would place you as the observer having the big picture, as opposed to personalizing events in such away that you are reacting to your world instead of acting with the wisdom of the adult. I mention this, because it relates to the manifestation of an inner child discontent. It is an important topic that deserves its’ own discussion at another time.


From a spiritual / scientific perspective, you are changing the frequency of an event that has been locked in your aura since the original occurrence. That frequency has repeated itself and still is repeats itself, in every energetic expression since the moment of its’ creation. The process of viewing the experience with Adult Eyes, merges your current frequency with that of the memory’s frequency. The process brings the past events into harmony with the person you are today. It accomplishes this through the merging of the two frequencies - the past frequency and the present. This is the meaning of harmony, a merging together, creating a new result. At this point the memory loses all it power and it can never, again, take control. Any recall will be done out of choice and be viewed with objectivity.


Following these 4 steps is a worthwhile adventure into your own becoming, and at no cost, but a little time well spent.


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